So I did some research on the meaning of Thanksgiving. Of course there’s a lot more to it than some of the pictures and/or expectations that come to mind. How it first began and how it has morphed into what it is today is kind of interesting. We all know that no matter what we think the day might/could/would/should hold, it often doesn’t materialize exactly how we hoped it would. There is amazing beauty in taking a moment to pause and reflect.
I found that Thanksgiving originally was instituted as a time to give thanks for all things — for the good and bad.
Thanksgiving is a time to be around people we love and who love us. I believe when life doesn’t go the way we think it should we become disheartened. That’s okay., but to stay there is not. Stephen Covey talks a lot about living in your circle of influence versus your circle of concern. The realm of influence is about taking action whereas circle of concern is about staying stuck and becoming bitter.
I think if we did not have the dark times, we wouldn’t find joy in the light. Life shapes us, refines us and pushes us. We’d atrophy immediately if we didn’t have to choose between green and growing or ripe and rotting. I also think we find what we look for. If we look for the bad, or the unfair, or the pain, we’ll find it. On the other hand, if we look for the good, the joy and the hope, we’ll find it. Whatever our schema is, we’ll consciously and unconsciously fit experiences into proving our beliefs.
So choose to be thankful. And trust that things usually work out. Even when they are not pretty, they are beautiful. And believe that life doesn’t go the way we want it to, it never has and it never will. Be thankful in all things — even turkey TV dinners. Steve Jobs said, “You can’t connect the dots by looking forward, only by looking backward.” Know that the stepping stones are all part of the journey. Start living with hope and make tomorrow better.